Motivation - The Power of Drive

Motivation- The Power of Drive!

My experience tells me there are three stages people go through on their way to having the drive necessary to meet their goals:

• I want to want to
• I want to
• I will no matter what

It’s only when you reach the stage of I will no matter what that you access the power of drive in your life.
Having said that, I’ve taken the word DRIVE and created an acronym that provides us with some direction. Here are five key strategies for implementing the power of drive in your life.

D etermination - Once you have decided on a goal, there can only be two results: you either get what you want or you have reasons (that is, excuses) why you didn’t. Determination produces results instead of excuses.
Does that mean that with determination you will never fail? No, not at all. The race is not always given to the swift, but to those who keep on running.
Many people know the name Babe Ruth as one of the greatest home run hitters in the history of baseball. Did you know he also lead the league in strikeouts? Babe Ruth also said, “You just can’t beat the person who never gives up.” The implication for us is clear - keep swinging.
R esponsibility - There is a famous qoute that says, “If it is to be, it’s up to me.” Unfortunately, we live in a culture that seems to teach “if it’s to be, it’s up to someone else.” Responsibilty means that you have determined (there’s that word again) that no one else has to do anything or stop doing anything for you to do your part, and do it massively.

I nventive - The seven last words of any business or corporation are “we’ve always done it that way before.” That’s a sure death rattle for any creativity at all. Remember, if you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always gotten. 

Every so often I get someone who tries to convince me that they are simply unable to be creative. My question to them is this, “do you ever worry?” Of course the anwer is yes. Worry is nothing more than creativity used in a negative way. It's the misuse of one's imagination.

Here’s a creativity causing question “In how many ways can I accomplish what I want, in new, unique and fun ways that will benefit both others and myself in the process?” Chew on that one a while, and watch the creativity start flowing.
V ision - There is a parable that says “where there is no vision, the people perish.” (proverbs 29:18) I believe this holds true for our goals, as well as anything else for that matter. Do you have a clear picture of where you want to go?
If not, follow these two steps:

• Create a very clear and detailed picture of where you want to go and how you want your life to be. It can help to cut pictures from magazines, books, etc. that represent your goals and dreams. A vision board! 
• Take the picture in your mind and make the colors more intense and more inviting. Make all the details of the picture brighter and brighter. This creates a more and more compelling picture that can increase your drive.

E nthusiasm - Nothing great is ever accomplished without enthusiasm. It’s the engine that drives great accomplishments. Author and speaker Barbara Glanz, whose slogan is “spreading contagious enthusiasm” has this to say about the power of enthusiasm: “I am constantly humbled by the gift with which I have been blessed--a contagious enthusiasm about the difference each one of us can make in this world.” Samuel Ullman once said, "Years may wrinkle the skin, but loss of enthusiasm wrinkles the soul."

If you will install these five keys into your life, it will serve to jump start your drive. Article Source: http://www.bigarticle.com/

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Motivation: 3 Keys to Lasting Change

David Bowie once sang, “Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes, tryin’ to face the strain.”

There are times in life when trying to change can be a strain. If you are like most folks, you have tried to change something in your life. And, like most folks, may have found yourself frustrated when you were unable to change. Perhaps it was a habit, an attitude, or some part of an important relationship. Whatever the issue, try as you might, you were not able to get the changes you wanted.

Welcome to the club, it’s a big one.

Here’s the really good news - you can get the changes you want! And it doesn’t have to take years and years and cost hundreds or thousands of dollars, two of the more common myths about the process of change.

Here’s a question - have you ever tried to open a ketchup bottle with a lizard? Of course not. The reason behind that rather odd question is to illustrate how frustrating and silly it is to try to do a job without the proper tools. My job in this column, and as a counselor, is simply to give you some of the tools that I have found useful in helping people get the changes they want in their lives.

Today we will look at three key tools for getting the changes you want, whether it’s at work or home.

Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want

What do the following statements have in common; “I want to stop smoking”, “I want to stop yelling at my kids”, “I’ve gotta stop working so hard”, “I need to stop neglecting my marriage.” One thing they have in common is they are all statements from clients, in the first session, when I ask them what they would like to be different about their lives. Another thing these statements have in common is that they all focus on what they don’t want.

Why is that important?

Well, think about it for a moment. When you first learned how to throw a ball, were you taught where to throw it to or where to not throw it? Another silly question, really. Of course you were taught to focus on where you wanted the ball to go.

In the same way, to achieve the changes you want, focus on what you want, not what you don’t want. It’s really not that difficult. In the examples above, all we need is a change in wording, which brings a change in focus.

Here’s a sample of what I mean -
“I want to stop smoking” becomes “I want to be smoke free.”
“I want to stop yelling at my kids” becomes “I want to manage my kids (and myself) better.”
“I’ve gotta stop working so hard” becomes “I want to work smarter, not harder, and enjoy life more.”
“I need to stop neglecting my marriage” becomes “I need to make my marriage a priority.”

And so on.

Focus on one change at a time

 
Trying to change too many things at once dooms you to frustration at best, and failure at worst. You can end up like the side show at the circus. You know the one, where the guy is spinning several plates on a stick, and has to run around to keep them all spinning at once. Eventually, you wear out, quit, and all the plates come tumbling down.

When working on changes, especially at first, focus on one area of change at a time. As you get your “psychological feet” under you in one area, move on the next, and then the next, etc. In this way, if you worked on one change a week for a year, that’s 50 things you could change in a year, with two weeks off for vacation.

Aim for progress, not perfection.

Let’s say you want to quit smok- oops, I mean become smoke free, for instance. You make it for six days, and then smoke one cigarette. It’s important to remember that six days smoke free is progress. Go for six more and then build from there.
What you don’t want to do is focus on the slip-up, and then give up in frustration. So many times we expect perfection from ourselves when we want to change. That’s a sure set-up for failure.

Focus on the progress, even if it’s one step up and two steps back. Keep going, and eventually you can get to 100 steps up and an occasional step back.

Focus on what you want, one change at a time, aim for progress. That’s a three part prescription for successful change.

Thanks for reading, and keep the change. Article Source: http://www.bigarticle.com/

Visit SecretsofGreatRelationships.com for tips and tools for creating and growing a great relationship. You can also subscribe to our free 10 day e-program on how to enrich your relationship today, from relationship coach and expert Jeff Herring.

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MOTIVATION - 3 Keys to Lasting Change.

David Bowie once sang, “Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes, tryin’ to face the strain.”

There are times in life when trying to change can be a strain. If you are like most folks, you have tried to change something in your life. And, like most folks, may have found yourself frustrated when you were unable to change. Perhaps it was a habit, an attitude, or some part of an important relationship. Whatever the issue, try as you might, you were not able to get the changes you wanted.

Welcome to the club, it’s a big one.
Here’s the really good news - you can get the changes you want! And it doesn’t have to take years and years and cost hundreds or thousands of dollars, two of the more common myths about the process of change.
Here’s a question - have you ever tried to open a ketchup bottle with a lizard? Of course not. The reason behind that rather odd question is to illustrate how frustrating and silly it is to try to do a job without the proper tools. My job in this column, and as a counselor, is simply to give you some of the tools that I have found useful in helping people get the changes they want in their lives.
Today we will look at three key tools for getting the changes you want, whether it’s at work or home.
Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want
What do the following statements have in common; “I want to stop smoking”, “I want to stop yelling at my kids”, “I’ve gotta stop working so hard”, “I need to stop neglecting my marriage.” One thing they have in common is they are all statements from clients, in the first session, when I ask them what they would like to be different about their lives. Another thing these statements have in common is that they all focus on what they don’t want.
Why is that important?
Well, think about it for a moment. When you first learned how to throw a ball, were you taught where to throw it to or where to not throw it? Another silly question, really. Of course you were taught to focus on where you wanted the ball to go.
In the same way, to achieve the changes you want, focus on what you want, not what you don’t want. It’s really not that difficult. In the examples above, all we need is a change in wording, which brings a change in focus.
Here’s a sample of what I mean -
“I want to stop smoking” becomes “I want to be smoke free.”
“I want to stop yelling at my kids” becomes “I want to manage my kids (and myself) better.”
“I’ve gotta stop working so hard” becomes “I want to work smarter, not harder, and enjoy life more.”
“I need to stop neglecting my marriage” becomes “I need to make my marriage a priority.”
And so on.

Focus on one change at a time

Trying to change too many things at once dooms you to frustration at best, and failure at worst. You can end up like the side show at the circus. You know the one, where the guy is spinning several plates on a stick, and has to run around to keep them all spinning at once. Eventually, you wear out, quit, and all the plates come tumbling down.

When working on changes, especially at first, focus on one area of change at a time. As you get your “psychological feet” under you in one area, move on the next, and then the next, etc. In this way, if you worked on one change a week for a year, that’s 50 things you could change in a year, with two weeks off for vacation.
Aim for progress, not perfection.
Let’s say you want to quit smok- oops, I mean become smoke free, for instance. You make it for six days, and then smoke one cigarette. It’s important to remember that six days smoke free is progress. Go for six more and then build from there.
What you don’t want to do is focus on the slip-up, and then give up in frustration. So many times we expect perfection from ourselves when we want to change. That’s a sure set-up for failure.

Focus on the progress, even if it’s one step up and two steps back. Keep going, and eventually you can get to 100 steps up and an occasional step back.

Focus on what you want, one change at a time, aim for progress. That’s a three part prescription for successful change.
Thanks for reading, and keep the change. Article Source: http://www.bigarticle.com/
Visit SecretsofGreatRelationships.com for tips and tools for creating and growing a great relationship. You can also subscribe to our free 10 day e-program on how to enrich your relationship today, from relationship coach and expert Jeff Herring.
View the original article here



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